Things which make us unique despite our diversity

Over the years, I have spent a fair amount of time in different parts of our country – for education, then work and ofcourse leisure travel. One such travel a few months ago, brought up some thoughts which I decided to pen down here.

It wouldn’t be wrong to say India is country of many nations. Even within each of our states, there is so much diversity that when we meet each other we will think of how “we” are different or what sets “us” apart from “them”. “Them” could be people living across the street (since ages), from a neighbouring city/state or someone from the opposite side of our Country.

There is no denying the magnitude of social and cultural differences in India. We like to identify ourselves in many ways. Tamils, Mallus, Punjabis, Jats, Marathas, Khasis, Dogras and so on. Then we have religious identities and of course the caste and the sub castes dynamics.

There is diversity and we revel in it. It doesn’t matter which region of the country we come from, or which caste, community or religion we affirm to, we have things in common which continue to unite us. Bollywood for one, cricket matches, disdain for our politicians, love for our country which especially peaks during Independence and Republic Days or when faced with military aggression, and so on.

However today on this Republic Day, I would like to highlight some nuances, which we tend to overlook, cause they are not bragworthy.  Yet these are common traits we have as Indians, notwithstanding the north-south, east-west divide. 

We love breaking the traffic rules: Not sure about the several archaic traditions or customs that we still follow doggedly, but traffic rules are something we love to break. As far as this aspect goes, there is no difference above or below the Vindhyas. Pune, Chennai, Shillong or Delhi, we are like that only. Then, what about CCTV cameras, challans, fines, etc ? Well those are for the faint hearted. Not for the most of us. And the famous trick with a Gandhi note works with most of the traffic cops in all parts of the country. 

We love our potholes: People who allege that our governments are elitist and pro-urban, I’d say you are wrong. Look at the state of our roads. Whether its a city or a town, it’s bad everywhere. In fact, bigger the city, bigger the potholes on the roads!

Piles of garbage on our streets is a way of life for us: Except for a few high streets, like roads around the Raj Bhavan and the Vidhan Sabhas and the like, most streets are littered with garbage. After all, we like to keep our street animals well fed, even if it is plastic or spoilt food. And we are now so used to garbage, just like advertisements, that garbage is no longer visible to our naked eyes.  

We don’t mind urinating in public: Whether it is a bus stopping at a wayside dhaba or a wall on a corner of a busy street. The stench of urine is all pervasive. We like our share of ammonia. The only difference maybe is that at some places men take off their pyjamas and the other they pull up their lungis

Shabby Government offices: A visit to a government office anywhere in the country and one can find walls and corridors smattered with paan stains, tables piled high with files, damp rooms with little or no ventilation.

However, somehow magically there is one room in the whole office, which is always spick and span. You guessed it right, that is the room of the officer in charge. By the way, it also has a clean toilet, a soap, cleaner and for some reasons, there is always a white towel on the officer’s chair. 

Officials demanding ‘their cut’ haq se: Any department you go, any part of the country there will be someone demanding a couple of notes to get the work done faster. It could be worse in some parts of the country, but unfortunately, this is something that unites us all. It is here our boundaries fade, we are no longer Bangla, Bihari or Telgu. 

We like taking selfies with wires dangling behind us: The jumble of tangled, messy electrical wires and cables hanging from electrical poles is common sight whether you live in an urban sprawl or a small town. Whether you are in Ludhiana or in Bangalore. And somehow we make sure there is a wire dangling on the spots, where one can admire or take pictures of  the beautiful valleys or beachfronts which abound in India . 

Cheating in exams: My friends across different states can vouch for examination centres, especially in border areas of the state, where students get to cheat. Somehow the invigilators on duty don’t seem to be aware of such things ever. The kind of social service we do is immense, after all, a kid barely able to pass in school can actually become a good doctor or engineer in the future. 

We are all civil engineers: Well all Indians, at least once in a lifetime, do become civil engineers, architects, structural engineers and sometimes even Masons. We fancy designing and building our own homes, our own way. We don’t care whether we have planned roads, utility ducts or garbage disposal systems. All those amenities come as an afterthought. 

We are a country of adventure-seeking backpackers:  Yes, you heard me right, we are a country seeking adventure. Every day, we see people, mounting their motorbikes, with a backpack, without helmets, of course, seeking a daily dose of the adrenaline rush of going to and coming back from the office.  And then if this was not enough, we like to cling to the buses and trains on the sides or on the rooftops. And this happens regardless of where we live in this country. 

Well, there are many more which can be enumerated here. However, I am hopeful, a day will soon come when these things will not be a common recurrence in our country. Till then let us continue to enjoy the unfettered freedom, which has been bestowed upon us. 

Wishing you the best for what the Republic of India can offer in its 71st year of existence. May we contribute our bit in stenghthening our country and continue to celebrate our unity in diversity. 

5 good habits I picked up in Oklahoma

5 good habits I picked up in Oklahoma 5

In October 2017, I had the chance to visit Oklahoma in the United States as part of a Professional Fellows Program (PFP). PFP is a two-way, global thought exchange program aimed at building sustainable relationships between mid-level emerging leaders from foreign countries and the United States.

During the program, I got the opportunity to live and work with entrepreneurs from 4 countries, Bangladesh, Myanmar, India and our hosts, US. The weeks spent in America is when I experienced first hand the American way of doing things, right from their work environment to local culture and everyday life. It was also instrumental in breaking my preconceived notions about Americans, gained from American sitcoms and movies, and friends and relatives who have had the chance to visit or work in America.

Now, Oklahoma is not the America that most Indians are familiar with. It’s quite different from the well known places on the West Coast such as Florida and California – the tech hub, also from cities in the East Coast like New York and Boston. Oklahoma is the heart of America and is known for its highly conservative society. A lot of people even told me, I may not like this America at all!

But when I look back, it was a wonderful and enriching five weeks spent among Oklahomans. I couldn’t have had the exciting experiences that I was presented with if not for the people of Oklahoma. I found them to be very open, as a matter of fact and very forthcoming. Not only did they welcome me at their offices, but also for lunches, coffee and office get-togethers. Professionals weren’t queasy about sharing their business strategies and the work environment was very collaborative.

I picked up quite a few good habits during my stay and thought I’d share them with you.

  • Begin the day early

I was quite surprised to see that the day begins quite early for most Oklahomans. Never an early riser myself, I was convinced I am not a morning person and that’s how I will be for the rest of my life. But in the weeks spent in the US, I realised waking just a couple of hours early actually gives a great head start to the day.  And more work gets done throughout the day, and a significant portion before noon!

Now, I am up before 6.00 – 6.30am every day, and it has worked great for me. It’s almost as if I have more time than others and the results are pretty impressive. I am much more organised and calmer as well!

  • Be more physically active

I was well aware of the fact that Americans (and Europeans, and most probably everyone else in the world) are more physically active than Indians. The Olympics medal tally is proof enough. But somehow, I had not expected even business professionals to be so physically fit.

In India, the fitness craze is definitely catching on. But, it’s not just about gymming or having a regular exercise schedule, overall people in America seem to be physically more active. They walk more, play a sport and seem to have more energy.

Doctors now are saying; sitting is the new cancer. It’s a good idea to not spend too much sitting at your desk and rather be up on your feet more often. I now also make it a point to never miss that morning run. It also helps that Dharamshala has scenic walking trails.

I sometimes wonder, why did I not do this before?

  • Get more involved with local community

Like all southern states of US, Oklahoma is proudly Republican with a prominent Christian population. The town revolves around the church, and is a closely knit community. It was interesting to see that locals are very passionate about community issues (and politics) and involved in various volunteering activities.

This is something I have felt quite strongly that we all must be involved in our local community. I now consciously try to play an active role in community partnership initiatives and volunteer for initiatives that focus on specific problems or activities. It has helped me become more socially aware and  made me more optimistic.

  • Work to live, not live to work

I consider myself to be a very laid back person. After meeting some really chilled out Oklahomans, I am not so sure now. People take work-life balance very seriously; weekends are sacrosanct for families and parents focus on spending quality time with their children.

This probably has been the most important takeaway for me. Achievement in professional life shouldn’t be the only source of satisfaction in life. It’s necessary to have interests, hobbies. I am trying to learn guitar and swimming. Focusing a lot on self-learning, reading and watching a lot of video tutorials.  

  • Adopting online tech tools for project management

As per my area of expertise I was matched with two digital marketing firms – Mcmahon Marketing and Benali Marketing – so that I could understand how these firms operate. Both were firms with small teams but handled huge amounts of business.

Mcmahon Marketing with only around 7 professionals were handling digital marketing accounts of 30 firms, at a time, smoothly and without major hiccups. All employees knew what they were supposed to do and when. Quarterly, monthly and weekly plans were followed to a T. Looking at them, it seemed as though managing a business is so easy.

And the only thing they did differently was use project management tools like Asana to plan and structure their day-to-day operations. The way the teams used a tech tool and to such effect left me astounded.

Since the past one year I have been trying to put in place similar systems at my company, with varying degrees of success. We are still not there, but I am hopeful we will soon get there. Maybe this year!

But one thing that still intrigues me is: In spite of embracing technology in such a big way, most people there still use visiting cards. Maybe it’s a part of their social etiquette. I found it endearing.

These are the things I have been able to follow. But there’s one I have not been able to.

I greatly admire Americans (and for that matter most people in western countries) for well they maintain their (huge) houses and gardens. Importantly, without any house-help. Everybody in the family, irrespective of gender, is involved in this and it’s a good thing I feel.

I am still trying to make myself more useful around the house and not very successfully.

Hopefully in this New Year I will be able to imbibe this good habit!